Do you find yourself feeling overwhelmed, wishing things would get better, and thinking that it is impossible. Do you find yourself saying things such as “I can't help it,” “I cant control it,” “There’s got to be more to life than this,” “Can’t I catch a break,” “There’s got to be a better way,” “Why can't I be normal?” Or how about this one, “I’ll be happy when…” Many people say “I’ll be happy when….. I’m debt free, I get a job, I find true love, I lose weight, I get that job promotion, I finally get pregnant, I’m done with school, my marriage improves....” Maybe you do end up getting those things you wanted, but life just goes on the same and you are left feeling unfulfilled, stressed, tired, and running on empty. That is because happiness, or rather peace and joy is something that comes from within. Something that is influenced by our thought life, the way we think. All of the above examples are negative, self-defeating thoughts, confidence killers. Our perspective, the way we think and view the world affects our feelings. As Aaron Beck, father of Cognitive Therapy states, "It is not bad things happening to us, but it is our interpretation of them that makes all the difference.”
Comments such as "Just get over it," or "You're being so dramatic," are not helpful and often lead to interpersonal conflict. That is because, a person has to work through and process their thoughts and feelings regarding various situations in life, difficult circumstances, and unfortunate events, before they can move past them. Therapy allows individuals to feel heard and understood in a safe environment, so that they can then gain insight and the tools to learn how to cope with various challenges.
Depression and anxiety interfere with overall energy levels and productivity, and negatively affect health, weight, and personal relationships with loved ones. Anger, if it is of the unhealthy type and unresolved can lead to depression, isolation (loss of personal relationships, divorce), and poor decision making (loss of job, arrests, jail). Social anxiety affects one’s ability to enjoy fellowship, companionship, and intimacy with others, as well as, work performance and the ability and likelihood of meeting personal career goals. Perfectionism and a need to control situations can lead to unhealthy obsessive thinking and anxiety. People can be so afraid of making a mistake that they end up never doing anything. Unfortunately, those who refuse to take the first step never accomplish anything in life. Through therapy clients can learn to be more aware and learn that making a mistake is not the end of the world, as long as they are teachable. Mistakes are part of the learning process. Often times people dwell too much on the negative and not enough on the positives. Therapy can teach you how to control your emotions before they control you. For every emotion there is a healthy and unhealthy version: temporary sadness vs. depression; remorse for poor behavior vs. guilt; normal concerns vs. neurotic anxiety; healthy anger vs. destructive anger.
Through the use of Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT) you will learn from your Psychologist how to identify negative automatic thoughts, examine the evidence for your thoughts, and dispute negative and irrational thoughts that are causing heightened levels of unwanted negative feelings. Additionally, through the use of a individualized treatment plan geared towards your specific needs, treatment may incorporate Solution-Focused Therapy, Emotion-Focused Therapy, Mindfulness, or Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP). Client education allows individuals to understand why they are having panic attacks, how they can be a better communicator, how to be assertive etc. Therapy can enhance your life, personal relationships and work performance by improving your overall mood, increasing self confidence and self acceptance, setting clearer goals, and increasing ability to cope with difficult life circumstances.
If you would like to feel less like a victim and more like a victor, therapy can teach you the necessary skills so that you can be in the driver’s seat of your own life. If you are ready to STOP being the passenger in this journey called life and get in the driver’s seat, the services offered by Peace of Mind Psychological Services can help you achieve that. THIS IS YOUR LIFE. I challenge you right now to make up your mind to do something to improve the overall quality of your life and increase your life satisfaction. No matter where you started or where you ended up, it is never too late to have a great finish!
Call (631) 482-7388 today to schedule a HIPPA compliant Virtual telehealth therapy appointment or an office visit in the West Islip office.